Reprinted from the Health District's quarterly publication mailed to district residents (Winter 2003)


TOPIC: Organ donations: The gift of life
 
by chryss cada

Ask Steve and Renee Carlson what an "average" day is like around their house and there's a long pause — even a small laugh.

That’s because, like most American families, the couple and their children, Rachel, 7, and Mitch, 5, don’t have an average day. Between the parents’ work, the children’s school and time for extracurricular activities, every day is a balancing act.

But there is one constant every day: family comes first.

“We’ve had to work at it, but making family a priority has allowed us to handle every new stage in our kids’ lives – and enjoy them,” Renee says. “You learn to juggle. If there’s a morning that I’m not needed for any meetings at work, then that’s the morning that I help with Rachel’s class.”

Steve and Renee say having that flexibility at work makes the difference.

“All the people I work with are parents so they know what it involves,” Steve says. “And they know that having a work-life balance makes a better employee.”

The Carlsons’ family focus includes their relationship as a couple. Through their 12 years of marriage, Steve and Renee have made a point of meeting at home to have lunch together.

“When we say family comes first, our marriage is at the top of the list,” Steve says. “What we don’t want to give up is our sanity time, our couple time, because that’s too big of a price to pay on an ongoing basis.”

suggestions for the busy family

Time for Spouse/Partner
• Communicate often with phone calls, hidden notes, hugs or kisses
• Plan “dates” or an intimate “rendezvous”
• Laugh together

*Single parents should set aside time for themselves, friends and significant others

Time for Children
• Sit on a child’s bed at night to read a story, talk over the day
• Put on the answering machine when you are eating, playing, reading or spending quiet time together
• Create a special time to be with each child on a regular basis

Time for Whole Family
• Share household and family responsibilities
• Schedule regular occasions that you know you'll be together (i.e., Friday night dinner or Sunday family conferences)
• Find an activity the whole family can enjoy (i.e., go to the movies, play softball or attend religious services)
• Learn how to make choices and say “no” to activities
Source: Employee Assistance Programs International

Web Resources
www.puttingfamilyfirst.info
www.timeday.org
www.worktolive.info
www.newdream.org