Reprinted from the Health District's quarterly publication mailed to district residents (Winter 2007)

Alan Sarikelle joined Parents Without Partners hoping to get recommendations for babysitters. Now, more than a year later, he’s found that the group offers so much more.

“They do social and educational activities, swap parental advice and have fun,” says Sarikelle, a single dad and the primary caregiver for his 6-year-old daughter. “I like that there’s an active group mentality.”

Recently, kids and parents met at a local fire station for a simulated demonstration on what to do during a house fire. It was a great experience, Sarikelle says, one he probably wouldn’t have been exposed to if he wasn’t in PWP. He also enjoys the adults-only activities where parents get together to exchange ideas and have fun.

Parents Without Partners is one of many organizations providing networking and friendship opportunities for parents. Many groups also provide educational programs and activities for parents and children to do together.

The Mothers’ Center of Fort Collins, for example, offers presentations by community experts, discussion groups, parent-child playgroups, and Mom’s Night Out. The Stepmothers Support Group, on the other hand, focuses on improving family relationships by discussing issues related to being a stepparent. Most groups are generally open to all primary caregivers.

Belonging to a networking group helps promote self-esteem, personal growth and quality parenting, notes Tricia Kob, programming coordinator for The Mothers’ Center. “It’s important to find a group you connect with,” she adds. “You may try several different groups before you find the one that’s right for you.”

Sarikelle says he feels comfortable among other PWP members. “Most people consider my situation as a single dad unconventional, but nobody at PWP even blinks at this,” he says. “It’s a diverse community, and the folks are very supportive.”

Psychologist Tom Linnell advises parents to use good judgment about what they share with a group and what advice they choose to try. “Realize that other people’s opinions and experiences are just that, and that what they share may or may not help you, and that’s okay.”

Belonging to a networking group can be so nurturing and supportive, Linnell adds. “If parents can get involved, they should – because parenting is hard work.”